We are so honored and excited to announce our third baby and son joined our family this morning at 6:57a, weighing in smaller than his brothers at 8lb 5oz. Everyone is healthy and enjoying lots of snuggles!

Big thanks to my awesome birth team at Methodist, doula Amy Heilman and Jen with Jennifer Liv photography. Oh, and of course my wonderful hubby Russ!

I will be taking the rest of 2016 off from on-call birth doula work to focus on our young family. And coming this fall I would love to hear from you if you are seeking support through your pregnancy, labor/birth and postpartum.

​Happy Birthing!

Oh, how I love Target! So much to see and dream about in how my home or wardrobe would look with the cute, reasonably priced décor, jewelry, shoes, clothing, etc, etc. I love buying a drink at Starbucks and peruse through the aisles as it jogs my memory of what we need at home; “Oh yes, we need toilet paper…Oooo…another Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle t-shirt for Owen! Um, must have that necklace.  Oh, Oh, can’t forget the $1 section…never know what awesome thing I could find there!”

But shopping with kids (especially a toddler and a preschooler) can turn Target into a hellish nightmare!

No perusing….kids don’t like perusing.  They want to push the cart.  Or better yet, scream, whine, make noises that even God is going “What the H-E-double-hockey-sticks is that noise?  Is someone dying?”

$1 section, mom, I want that, and that, and that, and that, and that, and that. Oh, that necklace you wanted…well, mom let me just pull it apart for you.  Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle shirt….no, no, mom I want to get out of the cart and throw everything I want in the cart for you.  Let me rip open the toilet paper mom and start throwing it at bypassers. 

Seriously, it makes me think twice about children in general. 

But, over the years I have discovered the secrets to keeping children quiet and well behaved through a Target run.  So here you are fellow moms, the 3 steps to surviving Target with little kids.

1. Make a list of what you need prior to arriving, even if you jot it down in the car while the kidlets are still strapped in their carseats. 
This will help you figure out which door to enter and then make your trip as a circle around the store, grabbing all the items you want and even stop a couple of times to check out the stuff that catches your eyes.  Kids are better about a continuous journey then a stop-and-go back and forth throughout the store.  Plus it just adds to the tension in the air if you find yourself both ends of the store multiple times.  So it short, make a list and map it out.

2. Get the cart with the two seater attached to a regular cart. 
Place oldest kids in the two seater portion of the cart, and then toddlers in the basket (unless yours sits in the bucket seat in front of the cart, place them there).  Toddlers are busy….I’m sure you figured that one out already….but they like to continuously move.  By placing them in the basket they can roam in that area and look toward the front to see everything.  Preschoolers are best in the two seater section because they can “push” the cart by placing their hands on the cart and still stand on the attachment.  Plus they feel like a big kid seating in that section vs the cart like their younger sibling. Since I’ve stopped following the rules to where to strap the kids, my kids have been better behaved and stop fighting with me so much.  I call that a win-win.

3.  Popcorn. 
For a $1.38 (in Minneapolis) you can purchase a bag of popcorn at the Target Café, ask for (number) of small cups to divide the popcorn to each child, and feed them as you shop.  This keeps them quiet and focused on the task of enjoying deliciously salty goodness. Seriously, it is the best $1.38 I spend at target each time (plus if you have target cartwheel, they often have a coupon for 5% off so you can save a whole 7¢....I still don't get this save 5% thing....it seems like more work to just remember to use the damn stupid thing; I'll save that rant for another day).


There is it.  Sweet and simple. And as you leave target, feel free to reward yourself for being an awesome mom with well-behaved kids by grabbing a venti Starbucks whatever you drink! You totally deserve it!

Eat. Sleep. Poop.  

That is the life of a newborn baby....and a postpartum mom.

A postpartum mom often finds herself starting the day feeding her baby, and may grab a piece of bread and eat it plain...cause it's at least food.  She may have enough brain power from the the 3-5 hours of sleep the night before to grab an apple, but probably just go for the cup of coffee.

She'll sit in her nursing chair, nursing her baby most of the day.  And then, it starts.  The grumblings of her empty stomach, as it is now 2pm...way past lunch.

"What can I make? I have no food!"

Here is where I come in - A Super Easy Tasty Lunch!   You don't need to have much in your fridge to create this lunch, just a can of beans and some dried pasta. Plus, you can add fresh or frozen veggies to this dish depending on what you have (or don't have) in the fridge or freezer.

So what are we making? It's a Creamy Pasta with Cannellini Bean Sauce. Most have some kind of dried pasta in our pantries, use whatever type (regular or whole wheat) and shape (penne, macaroni, spaghetti, etc.). In the photos I used my kid's Travel Shaped pastas (as in pasta shaped like planes, cars, boats....you get the idea).  Canned Cannellini beans or some type of white beans will work great in this recipe.  Plus you'll need either your food processor or I use my single-serve smoothie maker...and just clean out well before making your fruit smoothie.  :) 

Yield
4 servings

Ingredients
1 can (15oz) Cannellini beans, drained and rinsed
4oz creamy goat cheese or cream cheese or sour cream
1 teaspoon lemon juice
1/2 teaspoon garlic, minced
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/4 teaspoon black pepper
2 tablespoons shredded Parmesan cheese (optional)
8 oz. desired pasta
About 1 cup (more or less) of available vegetables, i.e. tomatoes, spinach, peas, broccoli, etc. (if using frozen, heat up before adding to pasta)

Method
Combine the beans, goat cheese/cream cheese/sour cream, lemon juice, garlic, salt, pepper, and cheese (if including) in a food processor and blend until smooth.
Cook your pasta until al dente. Drain the water from the pot and toss the sauce with the pasta. Add in extra vegetables if desired.
Serve hot or cold the following day. Store any leftovers in a sealed container in the refrigerator for 3-4 days.
Enjoy!

Remind yourself that early labor contractions are your body working very hard, building up to stronger, longer contractions. So this is very little reason to feel disappointed!

So here are my top 5 tips to cope with early labor:

Tip #1: Avoid Telling Family and Friends! -- You are probably already sick of people asking you if the baby has arrived yet (uh, yeah, we would've told you!), so you can imagine how frustrating things could get if you tell them you are in early labor. Because it’s going to take some time before the baby is actually ready to be born, telling others that you are in labor only serves to heighten the anticipation and pressure.

Tip #2: Rest, Rest, Rest! -- This is the number one tip I mention over and over in all my classes, REST. Labor takes a lot of energy and you need to reserve it for when labor intensifies. Rest does not mean sleep; if you can sleep that is great, but some moms feel anxious and cannot fall asleep so instead lay down and watch a favorite movie/show or read a book/magazine.  Your partners biggest, and hardest, job will be to tell you to go rest. Depleting what energy you have now can lead you to feeling exhausted too early. Wait on a bath until active or transitional labor; the weightlessness works against gravity and can result in slower or stalled labor. If you do want to use water for pain relief, soak under the shower instead.

Tip #3: Keep Yourself Distracted - Start a Simple Project or Finish Packing Your Labor Bag --  Plan some things now with your partner to keep you distracted, especially in the form of some simple projects you have been meaning to do. Bake a treat for your nurses or yourself when you return home, gets your nails done, go get a massage, write in your journal, scrapbooking, knitting, file away photos or recipes, rearrange things you have been meaning to in a while. This way time will pass a little faster and you will have achieved something at a time when you might feel like you are not achieving much at all (even though your body is doing a lot of work)! Plus this one is silly to mention, but double check your labor bag for any last minute items and throw it in the car. Just another thing to keep you distracted.

Tip #4: Eat and Drink Lightly -- Keep up your water levels to avoid dehydration, while visiting the bathroom often to make room for baby to come down. Food wise, you want to eat foods that are going to give you lasting energy, so carbs are a great option (I'm a fan of Oatmeal). Some women might say that they don’t like to eat prior to labor, out of concern they will only throw up, but it’s very important for your energy levels and for baby to eat in early labor. Some women will throw up regardless due to hormones – I’m sure most of us would rather throw up food than bile!  Yuck!

Tip #5: Don’t Feel Disappointed! -- If your labor is taking longer to establish than you hoped, don’t feel disappointed! Your body is working very hard – and if it’s any consolation, some women find that when they have longer early labors, they have a shorter active labor. The early part of your labor is not in any way a sign of what is to come. The time it takes to get to active labor does not mean that it will take that long to get to the next phase. Remember, feeling anxiety or stress can slow or stall your labor – and that’s the last thing you want to do! Enjoy this special time before your baby arrives – you have got a great big job ahead of you and you can totally rock it!

Happy Birthing, Alexia

A elderly woman is diagnosed with a late stage cancer.  Once home she contacts her pastor to prepare for the funeral and how she wants it to go to properly celebrate her life.  Her pastor thought she should take some time, but the woman wanted to make sure he used the right hymns, the right scripture, and said the right words.  So the pastor came to her home and they went over everything for her funeral.  And then she proclaimed "At the end, I want you to take the Bible and place it opened on my casket and place a fork on it."  "A fork?" the past asked.  "Yes. At the end of all our dinners, what is the one thing every one tells you? 'Keep your fork as the best is yet to come...dessert!' So by placing a fork on top of my casket we will reminding all that THE BEST IS YET TO COME."

This was the story that was shared at church this past Sunday as our pastor then mentioned the concept of living in the Now and for the Not Yet.  As he went on about it in the sense of living for God, I couldn't help but think about all the mamas and couples that come to all my preparing for childbirth classes.  

Those mamas and couples take the class to prepare for birth and what to expect in birth.  The NOW.  

What about mom's postpartum care? The NOT YET.

Granted, I do cover some postpartum recovery and touch a bit about what will be going on with baby in the hour or two after birth.  For more information about newborn care, I refer to the Breastfeeding/Newborn Care Combo class my workplace offers.

But how many mamas and couples just prepare for the birth and forget that there is a baby at the end to take care of; and they especially forget about the new mother that just went through a huge life event that needs to recover, physically and mentally as well as somehow get rest while to care for a baby.  

So how can we as mamas and support people prepare for the Now AND Not Yet?

Make lists of the following (I LOVE lists!!):

1. Do things now to simplify life once baby arrives. (prepare a frozen meals, set a MealBaby registry, schedule someone to walk the dog, hire a postpartum doula, schedule someone else to clean your house for the first month or so, etc.)
2. Figure out who and where you can go for support as a new parent (Mom, Sister, Friends who are parents, postpartum doula, night nannies, new mama groups, ECFE, La Leche League, etc.)
3. Make a Nursing Nest, a place where you will be most of the time nursing, equipped with your nursing basket (place snacks, a water bottle, nursing pillow and something to entertain you in that basket)
4. Shop for your postpartum recovery (pads, no tampons, in various sizes, tucks pads, Ibuprofen, a tummy wrap, loose nursing bras or camis, and MotherLove nipple cream.
5. Support people: figure out if you can take a few more days off from work to support the momma if birth takes some unexpected turns and she needs more support at home for a bit longer.

As expectant mommas, we tend to concentrate on this big event called birth.  And it is big and we should prepare for it.  But we should also prepare for postpartum.  That lasts a WHOLE YEAR after baby's birth. 

The best is yet to come in many ways....and for you it means that your baby will be in your arms soon.  So do not forget to live not only for the now, but for the not yet too.

Blessings!