This was the story that was shared at church this past Sunday as our pastor then mentioned the concept of living in the Now and for the Not Yet. As he went on about it in the sense of living for God, I couldn't help but think about all the mamas and couples that come to all my preparing for childbirth classes.
Those mamas and couples take the class to prepare for birth and what to expect in birth. The NOW.
What about mom's postpartum care? The NOT YET.
Granted, I do cover some postpartum recovery and touch a bit about what will be going on with baby in the hour or two after birth. For more information about newborn care, I refer to the Breastfeeding/Newborn Care Combo class my workplace offers.
But how many mamas and couples just prepare for the birth and forget that there is a baby at the end to take care of; and they especially forget about the new mother that just went through a huge life event that needs to recover, physically and mentally as well as somehow get rest while to care for a baby.
So how can we as mamas and support people prepare for the Now AND Not Yet?
Make lists of the following (I LOVE lists!!):
- Do things now to simplify life once baby arrives. (prepare a frozen meals, set a MealBaby registry, schedule someone to walk the dog, hire a postpartum doula, schedule someone else to clean your house for the first month or so, etc.)
- Figure out who and where you can go for support as a new parent (Mom, Sister, Friends who are parents, postpartum doula, night nannies, new mama groups, ECFE, La Leche League, etc.)
- Make a Nursing Nest, a place where you will be most of the time nursing, equipped with your nursing basket (place snacks, a water bottle, nursing pillow and something to entertain you in that basket)
- Shop for your postpartum recovery (pads, no tampons, in various sizes, tucks pads, Ibuprofen, a tummy wrap, loose nursing bras or camis, and MotherLove nipple cream.
- Support people: figure out if you can take a few more days off from work to support the momma if birth takes some unexpected turns and she needs more support at home for a bit longer.
As expectant mommas, we tend to concentrate on this big event called birth. And it is big and we should prepare for it. But we should also prepare for postpartum. That lasts a WHOLE YEAR after baby's birth.
The best is yet to come in many ways....and for you it means that your baby will be in your arms soon. So do not forget to live not only for the now, but for the not yet too.